“Você pergunta isso para pessoas magras?” Essa foi a resposta da jornalista porto-alegrense Viviane Schwäger, 40 anos, quando questionada sobre seu peso. “Por que o peso do gordo causa tanta curiosidade?” O que realmente importa para a comunicadora, apaixonada por música e teatro, é manter a saúde, ainda que em um corpo gordo. “De resto, levo a vida como qualquer pessoa: adoro cantar e dançar, faço exercícios, visto o que me dá vontade. Não me privo de nada – não mais, não por causa do meu tamanho”, afirma Vivi, como é conhecida pelos amigos.
Viviane diz ter encontrado o caminho pedregoso do amor próprio. “Não é um botão que a gente liga e pronto, apaga todos os traumas de uma vida inteira. Mas é uma construção bonita, que vale a pena”. Hoje, ela diz cuidar do corpo por amá-lo, não por odiá-lo. “Queria que tivesse acontecido antes, mas tudo a seu tempo”.
Quando começou a engordar, aos 11 anos, a família a obrigou a fazer dieta pela primeira vez. A partir daí, fez diversos tratamentos, tomou remédios, foi a nutricionistas, médicos, psicólogos, terapeutas, realizou lipo a pedido da família, que sempre fez o discurso de “preocupação com a saúde”, chegou a pensar em bariátrica.
Me pergunto até que ponto eu não seria menos gorda se tivesse preservado minha saúde mental e não me submetido a tanta agressão”
“Quando pude desistir de tudo isso, passei a me alimentar com mais equilíbrio, sem radicalismos, mas de uma forma que mantivesse a saúde do meu corpo. Engordei, sim, mas recuperei a sanidade. Mantenho minha alimentação o mais saudável possível, mas não me furto a comer uma gostosura quando dá vontade”.
“Respeitem meu corpo”
Viviane diz não saber, nem se preocupar com o peso. “Prefiro me preocupar com números que realmente afetam a minha vida: o de pessoas gordas que não conseguem acessar o transporte público ou os serviços de saúde, o número de médicos que receitam emagrecimento até para dor de ouvido, o número de suicídios de adolescentes que não aguentam a pressão por não se encaixar em um padrão impossível”.
Ela mesma já teve diversas experiências nesse sentido: “já tive que procurar outro lugar para fazer exame de imagem porque o equipamento disponível não comportava meu tamanho. Já tive que sair de brinquedo de parque de diversões porque não cabia no carrinho. Toda vez que assisto a algum show no Araújo Vianna, saio com hematomas nas coxas por causa dos braços das poltronas. Já fui abordada por completos estranhos que perguntaram ‘já pensou em fazer cirurgia?’. Já fui rejeitada em lojas, encontros, academias e inúmeras situações e pessoas que não aceitavam meu tamanho”.
O mundo, segundo ela, é muito hostil com a pessoa gorda. Por isso é tão importante a representatividade que vemos hoje. Blogueiras, influencers, empresárias, modelos, atrizes, cantoras, bailarinas e atletas vêm ocupando lugares que sempre disseram que não pertencia à pessoa gorda e provando que esse julgamento sempre esteve completamente errado”, enfatiza.
Há ainda algo bastante frequente na vida das mulheres gordas, que é a fetichização. “É só publicar uma foto mais sensual em qualquer rede social que lá vêm os ‘papa-gorda’, como uma amiga definiu, mandando mensagem, querendo mais fotos, oferecendo sexo. A mulher gorda é frequentemente vista como objeto sexual, não como pessoa. O mais irônico é que esses homens, sim, sempre homens, jamais assumiriam uma mulher gorda em público como companheira. Isso é bem doente”.
Sobre o amor, ser gorda nunca foi um empecilho. “Já fui profundamente amada, já fui fragorosamente rejeitada, já tomei pé na bunda, já dei pé na bunda. Como qualquer pessoa. Acho que sim, tem muito preconceito com a aparência da pessoa gorda na hora de engatar um romance, mas quem realmente quiser estar comigo não vai se preocupar com isso”, declara.
Oi, amor próprio
Bullying sempre foi uma dor. Deixou e ainda deixa feridas. Mas com o passar dos anos, Viviane conseguiu fazer da autoestima seu escudo. “A gordofobia intrínseca até na família vai colocando pedras difíceis de tirar da bagagem emocional. Por volta dos 30 anos, cansei de não fazer mais as coisas que queria por vergonha. Cansei de passar calor, cansei de passar vontade. Foi aí que brotou a faísca do amor próprio. Ele nos leva tão longe…”
Apesar de já ter vivido diversos momentos de dificuldades, e preconceito, Viviane também tem relatos de empoderamento e acolhimento. Tudo isso graças à coragem que adquiriu ao longo do tempo e à aceitação de que peso é apenas um número.
Bloco na rua
“Dez anos atrás eu entrei no bloco Maria do Bairro, do carnaval de Porto Alegre, como vocalista. Em nenhum momento, nunca, nem por um segundo, questionaram meu peso ou minha aparência. O meu querido Zeca Brito, fundador do bloco, me chamou pela minha voz, e vejo essa clareza de julgamento ano após ano quando desço do trio e as pessoas vêm elogiar o meu canto. Com o tempo, fui criando coragem pra ousar mais nos looks: o deste ano foi só um maiô amarelo e um arranjo de cabeça!”, conta Vivi.
Ela conta que quando decidiu fazer pole dance, em 2017, foi extremamente bem recebida e acarinhada no Velvet Pole & Tease. “As professoras nunca duvidaram da minha capacidade – inclusive, acreditavam em mim mais do que eu mesma. Cheguei a saber de amigas gordas que tentaram fazer pole em outros lugares e as professoras tinham nojo de tocá-las”.
Outra grande transformação positiva tem a ver com a moda. “Quando eu era adolescente, ser vista saindo de uma loja de “tamanhos grandes” era uma vergonha. E as roupas eram muito feias. Me vi obrigada a aprender a costurar. Então, conheci a feira Pop Plus, em São Paulo, que é a maior feira de moda plus size da América Latina. Lá eu encontrei não só o que eu queria vestir, mas pela primeira vez na vida, me vi tendo que escolher”. Sobre padrões, ela é enfática: “Acho que todo mundo tem alguma beleza, e os padrões que se explodam”.
Este post tem 81 comentários
Hello there, just became aware of your blog through Google, and found
that it’s truly informative. I’m gonna watch out for brussels.
I’ll appreciate if you continue this in future. Many people will be benefited from your writing.
Cheers! Escape rooms
I loved as much as you’ll receive carried out right here.
The sketch is attractive, your authored subject matter stylish.
nonetheless, you command get got an nervousness over
that you wish be delivering the following. unwell
unquestionably come further formerly again since exactly
the same nearly a lot often inside case you shield this increase.
Very interesting subject, appreciate it for putting up. Travel guide
Nice post. I learn something new and challenging on websites I stumbleupon every day. It’s always exciting to read through articles from other authors and practice something from their sites.
Your style is very unique compared to other folks I have read stuff from. I appreciate you for posting when you have the opportunity, Guess I’ll just bookmark this web site.
I need to to thank you for this fantastic read!! I definitely loved every little bit of it. I have you book-marked to look at new things you post…
Pretty! This was a really wonderful post. Thanks for providing this information.
This is the perfect site for everyone who hopes to find out about this topic. You realize a whole lot its almost tough to argue with you (not that I actually would want to…HaHa). You certainly put a new spin on a subject which has been discussed for ages. Great stuff, just great.
The very next time I read a blog, I hope that it doesn’t disappoint me as much as this particular one. After all, Yes, it was my choice to read through, however I actually believed you’d have something interesting to say. All I hear is a bunch of moaning about something you could possibly fix if you weren’t too busy looking for attention.
Great article! We are linking to this great content on our website. Keep up the great writing.
Oh my goodness! Impressive article dude! Many thanks, However I am encountering problems with your RSS. I don’t understand the reason why I can’t subscribe to it. Is there anybody getting the same RSS issues? Anyone that knows the solution will you kindly respond? Thanks!!
After I originally commented I seem to have clicked on the -Notify me when new comments are added- checkbox and now whenever a comment is added I recieve four emails with the exact same comment. Is there a means you are able to remove me from that service? Many thanks.
This is a very good tip particularly to those new to the blogosphere. Simple but very precise info… Thanks for sharing this one. A must read post!
Aw, this was an incredibly nice post. Taking the time and actual effort to produce a top notch article… but what can I say… I procrastinate a lot and don’t seem to get nearly anything done.
Next time I read a blog, I hope that it won’t fail me as much as this one. I mean, I know it was my choice to read through, nonetheless I genuinely thought you would have something useful to say. All I hear is a bunch of complaining about something that you could fix if you weren’t too busy searching for attention.
Having read this I believed it was rather informative. I appreciate you taking the time and effort to put this article together. I once again find myself personally spending a significant amount of time both reading and leaving comments. But so what, it was still worth it.
Hi there! This blog post could not be written much better! Reading through this article reminds me of my previous roommate! He always kept preaching about this. I’ll send this information to him. Fairly certain he’ll have a good read. Thanks for sharing!
Good post. I learn something new and challenging on blogs I stumbleupon every day. It will always be exciting to read articles from other writers and use a little something from other sites.
Nice post. I learn something new and challenging on blogs I stumbleupon everyday. It will always be helpful to read through articles from other writers and use something from other sites.
After checking out a number of the articles on your web site, I really appreciate your technique of blogging. I bookmarked it to my bookmark site list and will be checking back soon. Please visit my web site too and tell me your opinion.
Greetings! Very helpful advice within this article! It is the little changes that make the greatest changes. Thanks for sharing!
Howdy, I do believe your site may be having web browser compatibility issues. When I take a look at your site in Safari, it looks fine however when opening in IE, it’s got some overlapping issues. I simply wanted to give you a quick heads up! Apart from that, fantastic blog!
I seriously love your website.. Great colors & theme. Did you develop this site yourself? Please reply back as I’m hoping to create my own site and would love to find out where you got this from or what the theme is named. Thank you.
You are so awesome! I don’t suppose I have read anything like that before. So wonderful to find another person with genuine thoughts on this topic. Seriously.. thank you for starting this up. This web site is one thing that is needed on the internet, someone with a little originality.
I blog frequently and I genuinely thank you for your information. Your article has truly peaked my interest. I am going to take a note of your blog and keep checking for new details about once per week. I opted in for your Feed as well.
You need to take part in a contest for one of the highest quality websites online. I am going to recommend this website!
After looking into a few of the blog posts on your site, I seriously appreciate your way of blogging. I bookmarked it to my bookmark webpage list and will be checking back in the near future. Please visit my website too and let me know how you feel.
This is the right webpage for everyone who wishes to find out about this topic. You know so much its almost hard to argue with you (not that I really would want to…HaHa). You definitely put a new spin on a subject that has been discussed for many years. Great stuff, just wonderful.
Aw, this was a really nice post. Spending some time and actual effort to create a really good article… but what can I say… I put things off a lot and don’t seem to get anything done.
Next time I read a blog, I hope that it won’t disappoint me as much as this one. I mean, Yes, it was my choice to read, but I actually thought you’d have something helpful to say. All I hear is a bunch of crying about something you could fix if you were not too busy searching for attention.
Aw, this was a really nice post. Taking a few minutes and actual effort to make a top notch article… but what can I say… I hesitate a lot and don’t seem to get nearly anything done.
It’s hard to find knowledgeable people in this particular subject, however, you sound like you know what you’re talking about! Thanks
Hi, I do think this is an excellent site. I stumbledupon it 😉 I am going to revisit once again since I book marked it. Money and freedom is the best way to change, may you be rich and continue to guide others.
A motivating discussion is worth comment. I do believe that you ought to publish more on this subject matter, it may not be a taboo matter but usually people don’t discuss such subjects. To the next! Many thanks.
This blog was… how do I say it? Relevant!! Finally I have found something which helped me. Kudos.
I absolutely love your website.. Great colors & theme. Did you develop this amazing site yourself? Please reply back as I’m hoping to create my own blog and want to find out where you got this from or exactly what the theme is called. Thanks!
This is a topic that’s close to my heart… Best wishes! Exactly where are your contact details though?
Your style is so unique compared to other folks I have read stuff from. Thanks for posting when you have the opportunity, Guess I’ll just book mark this site.
Greetings! Very useful advice within this article! It’s the little changes that make the biggest changes. Thanks for sharing!
I seriously love your blog.. Great colors & theme. Did you build this website yourself? Please reply back as I’m attempting to create my own site and want to know where you got this from or just what the theme is named. Cheers.
Saved as a favorite, I really like your web site!
It’s nearly impossible to find educated people on this subject, but you seem like you know what you’re talking about! Thanks
Hi there, There’s no doubt that your site could be having internet browser compatibility issues. When I take a look at your web site in Safari, it looks fine however, when opening in Internet Explorer, it has some overlapping issues. I just wanted to give you a quick heads up! Apart from that, great blog.
I seriously love your website.. Great colors & theme. Did you create this amazing site yourself? Please reply back as I’m looking to create my own personal website and would like to know where you got this from or exactly what the theme is named. Kudos.
Good post. I absolutely love this site. Stick with it!
I used to be able to find good advice from your blog articles.
You are so cool! I do not believe I’ve read through a single thing like that before. So nice to find another person with a few genuine thoughts on this topic. Seriously.. many thanks for starting this up. This site is something that is required on the web, someone with some originality.
This blog was… how do I say it? Relevant!! Finally I have found something that helped me. Thank you!
Right here is the perfect site for anybody who really wants to find out about this topic. You understand so much its almost tough to argue with you (not that I really would want to…HaHa). You certainly put a fresh spin on a topic which has been discussed for decades. Great stuff, just great.
Nice post. I learn something new and challenging on blogs I stumbleupon everyday. It will always be exciting to read through articles from other authors and practice a little something from other websites.
Great post! We will be linking to this particularly great content on our site. Keep up the good writing.
I need to to thank you for this excellent read!! I absolutely enjoyed every bit of it. I’ve got you book-marked to check out new things you post…
go 88
Pretty! This was a really wonderful article. Thank you for supplying these details.
ĐáGà
mk sports Quay lén phụ nữ
Greetings! Very helpful advice within this article! It’s the little changes that produce the most significant changes. Many thanks for sharing!
Next time I read a blog, Hopefully it doesn’t fail me just as much as this particular one. After all, I know it was my choice to read, nonetheless I truly believed you would probably have something useful to say. All I hear is a bunch of moaning about something you could possibly fix if you weren’t too busy looking for attention.
Great site you have here.. It’s hard to find excellent writing like yours these days. I honestly appreciate people like you! Take care!!
Daga – Introducing to you the most prestigious online entertainment address today. Visit now to experience now!
Very nice post. I certainly appreciate this site. Thanks!
I enjoy looking through an article that will make people think. Also, many thanks for permitting me to comment.
Introducing to you the most prestigious online entertainment address today. Visit now to experience now!
Introducing to you the most prestigious online entertainment address today. Visit now to experience now!
Introducing to you the most prestigious online entertainment address today. Visit now to experience now!
Introducing to you the most prestigious online entertainment address today. Visit now to experience now!
Introducing to you the most prestigious online entertainment address today. Visit now to experience now!
Introducing to you the most prestigious online entertainment address today. Visit now to experience now!
Very good information. Lucky me I came across your blog by accident (stumbleupon). I’ve bookmarked it for later!
Introducing to you the most prestigious online entertainment address today. Visit now to experience now!
Introducing to you the most prestigious online entertainment address today. Visit now to experience now!
This excellent website definitely has all the information and facts I needed about this subject and didn’t know who to ask.
88clb
Introducing to you the most prestigious online entertainment address today. Visit now to experience now!
May I simply say what a relief to uncover a person that truly knows what they are talking about on the net. You definitely know how to bring an issue to light and make it important. A lot more people really need to check this out and understand this side of the story. I was surprised that you’re not more popular because you certainly have the gift.
Introducing to you the most prestigious online entertainment address today. Visit now to experience now!
Nice post. I learn something new and challenging on sites I stumbleupon every day. It will always be useful to read articles from other writers and use something from other sites.
Good site you’ve got here.. It’s hard to find quality writing like yours these days. I truly appreciate people like you! Take care!!
I blog quite often and I truly appreciate your information. The article has really peaked my interest. I am going to take a note of your website and keep checking for new information about once a week. I opted in for your RSS feed as well.
Introducing to you the most prestigious online entertainment address today. Visit now to experience now!
Fun88 – Introducing to you the most prestigious online entertainment address today. Visit now to experience now!